Having a Micro Wedding? Do Not Miss this Florists Perfectly Intimate Ceremony
With a huge increase in 'micro weddings' and intimate affairs due to the COVID-19 pandemic, we're thrilled to be able to still provide perfect wedding inspiration for your event no matter the size or circumstance. It gives us even greater pleasure today in particular because today's real wedding is of one of our hugely talented Fine Art Curation member's, Elizabeth from The Petaler. Not only does Elizabeth's incredibly beautiful wedding show off her innate style, but she's here to advise any brides who are coping with setting out a 'Plan B'...
"When moving forward with Autumn 2020 and Winter 2021 events, a big part of the conversation has been preparing for plan B in the event there is a second wave of the virus. If we learned anything from the sudden onset of a pandemic, it was that a back up plan is essential and what that means in this day and age no longer simply includes just inclimate weather. This includes defining who is absolutely essential to this momentous occasion; how to safely include older relatives or those who may be more at risk; how to share their wedding electronically, if they want to. This has really shifted the nature of our industry dramatically and I think for the better.
In an age where a shift to more intimate weddings has become necessary for a lot of couples, I have noticed couples mourning the loss of certain celebratory must haves, but I think instead, there needs to be a shift in mindset to the wonderful things that can be done when the guest count is smaller. My husband and I opted for a 20 person gathering, which meant we could focus on really special details that just can't be done with bigger events. For instance our invitation and paper goods were incredibly unique and so special to us. Our stationer used a multi-step process that included painting handmade paper, then letterpressing each piece on her own antique letterpress, then painting the second half of the design over the letterpressed portion, making each invitation its own unique piece of art. Additionally, we gathered the bark that was used for our place cards from our dog's favorite tree in the neighborhood. We spent a couple of months collecting samples during our walks with Basil, our dog, which was really sweet and fun for us to do together in the planning process. That level of intricacy simply can't be done on a large scale. In many ways, a smaller guest list can pave the way for a more thoughtful and meaningful celebration."
"I will side step for a second and use my cousin as an example. She and her husband were scheduled to be married on April 4. They made the decision to keep their date, but shift to a more intimate, family only ceremony. On March 22nd, our city announced a lockdown order effective March 23rd at midnight. My aunt and I rallied and gathered friends and neighbors to help. I did all of the flowers, my aunt laid out the family China, while neighbors who own one of Houston's best restaurants did the catering. The groom's parents organized the cake and found a bowtie for their dog who served as the best man. My uncle set out ten chairs, grouped by household and spaced more than 10 feet apart. Another great friend of mine made beautiful hand painted place cards. The bride's sister set up a Facebook group and took calls ALL day from older friends and family members trying to sort out how to join the group and watch the wedding while her husband did the video for the livestream. It was frantic, but in the end I think it was better than a big, blow out celebration because it was a true labor of love. So many people rallied behind this sweet couple to make their day as wonderful as it could be and in the end, love was the only thing that mattered."
"As a florist, I always think there should be as many flowers as you can get into a wedding especially in a time when the landscape of events is shifting and so many of the other elements that go to making a wedding day unique are being left out of the occasion all together. With that in mind, there are some bits that have to be there and in the case of a micro wedding, a good place to splurge is your bridal bouquet. In the case of American weddings especially, if you are not having a large bridal party, invest in a really lavish, bountiful bouquet. Now is the opportunity to splurge on the delicate, but expensive orchids or the super dramatic, fluffy peonies. Finish it off with an heirloom ribbon or a handkerchief that may have been in the family for generations. We always wrap our bouquets in botanically dyed silk ribbons so that they feel even more special."
"In our Celebrate In Place package, we include a bouquet, boutonnieres, and centerpiece, but we don't want couples to feel as if they are limited to just those offerings. Those are the standard pieces that I would recommend in any micro wedding or civil ceremony, but for couples who are opting not to follow their intimate ceremony with a large reception at a later date, I would strongly encourage a bigger floral statement especially for the ceremony. Typically that would look like a floral archway or chuppah, but that could also come in the form of a dramatic ground installation if the ceremony is taking place outside. An inside alternative could be a beautiful floral moment on the mantelpiece. We have done everything from large, organic instillations sprawling the length of the mantle to a more refined presentation of just two overflowing urns. You could even have a mix of high and low vases with single floral elements and romantic candles. There is no limit on creativity during this time and florals are a wonderful way to elevate the occasion."
"I would recommend that couples have a discussion with their florist about all of these options to determine what they feel they can safely produce for them during this time. I can tell you with tremendous certainty that the health and safety of my team is my highest priority and it has to be during this time. We have standard PPE when working on projects and ask our clients to follow appropriate social distancing if they are on site with us. That does mean that we are limited to just a team of three which means that as much as we can produce safely in our studio we do head of time, so that really it is only the bigger elements like installations that are done on site."
"This has also meant a shift in our experience with our couples. We typically book 10-14 months in advance, so that gives me the opportunity to really get to know them. So, when their wedding day arrives I am just as excited as they are. In response to a pandemic, I don't get to see our brides and hand them their bouquets anymore. Instead, I give them a little training on how to hold it properly for photos and carrying it down the aisle over FaceTime. It's not the same, but that is the nature of our current climate and we have to adapt."
"With all of that in mind, I think that this pandemic has only highlighted the fact that love will find a way and at the end of the day it isn't about a gorgeous vintage car driving away, or Instagram moments that are better than your friend's weddings. I genuinely feel that the age of "THE BEST DAY EVER" is coming to an end in favor of a beautiful day, filled with extra special moments that now set the stage for even better days to come. Personally, I prefer that narrative."
Photography, Divya Pande | Venue, Carr Mansion (getting ready location), Tiny's No. 5 (reception) | Catering, Tiny's No. 5 | Coordinator, Holloway Events | Event designer, Elizabeth Miller | Flowers, The Petaler | Stationery, Halfmoon Lettering | Paper, Idyll Paper | Officiant, Judge Jay Karahan | Bride's dress, BHLDN | Bride's veil, Sibo Designs | Bride's hair accessory, Erin Rhyne | Bride's shoes, BHLDN | Bride's hair and makeup, Shreeda Tailor | Groom's attire: Billy Reid | Engagement ring and wedding bands, Melissa Joy Manning | Cake, Whisk Bakery | Rentals, Aztec Rentals | Favors, Tiny's Milk and Cookies | Ribbons, Silk and Willow