Ultimate Social Media Advice and Tips - Staying offline?
Whoops! It seems a fair bit of time has passed since my last post in here and alas some life got in the way. We've been super busy behind the scenes with a MEGA new project (soon to be released!) and just general family/work/life balance issues. The little one has now started nursery 3 days a week which enables me to work more efficiently during normal working hours (this comes with it's own emotional issues which may be addressed in another blog post...) so I've now got the time to update and continue on with whatever you guys want to hear about in the blogging/social/wedding industry.
Last time I posted in here it was about my social media hiatus and to be honest, it was long overdue. I was knee deep in the negative side of the social media black hole - comparing my home, life, style etc to others and scrolling for days. So I stopped. No posting, no peeking. And it was surprisingly difficult. I wanted to see what everyone was up to. What was I going to do with my spare time in the evening when the baby was in bed? How was I going to keep up to date with all the news and lives of distant friends and industry colleagues? If a Kardashian/Jenner can manage to stay off social media, why can’t the rest of us?
Just like Kylie Jenner (who has a mere 102 MILLION followers on IG alone), could I moderate my social media habits when my stress levels demand it, or where pregnancy, parenting and other major life moments are concerned? There is a sense that we may be reaching a saturation point, with growing numbers of people craving a life away from the tyranny of their devices. I know of more and more people who are deleting their social apps from their phones, downgrading their iPhone to a text-only device (retro!) and describing life without constant emails, Twitter feeds, Facebook updates and Instagram photos as a blessed relief. Back in control of your own time and not constantly being tugged by some inanimate force at all times of day and night.
I was regularly wasting about 2.5 hours a day on mainly Instagram (work and non-work) – that’s time I could be spending with my baby or husband, exercising, reading or writing, learning a foreign language – all those things I frequently insist that I never have enough time for. I might be back online now, but I’m certainly rethinking my habits.
Our dependence on social media leads to increased stress and anxiety levels (I'm proof of that) and shortening attention spans. A study from the Journal of Depression and Anxiety found that the longer young adults spend on social media, the more likely they are to be depressed because of the false lives they create and curate online. If that isn't an advert for getting offline, I don't know what is...
SO WHAT NOW?
Well I'm going the route of Ed Sheeran, who is back online after a hiatus, but who claims that he now only posts and doesn’t read comments to avoid absorbing the negativity. How do you guys stay offline when you need to? Deleting apps? Turning your phone off? Leaving it in a drawer somewhere? If anyone needs a helping hand weaning their usage of social, I'm here for you - just don't DM me on Instagram....