9 TIPS TO KEEPING A GOOD MARRIAGE
We're all about the planning and designing a wedding here at Wedding Sparrow but what happens when that day is all over? Once the celebrations have died down it's refreshing to read about how couples who have lived through the excitement of the early years, have managed to keep their marriage fresh and strong. The lovely Heather & Seth (photographed by WS fave Jake Anderson) are here to let you in on how it works for them...
“This past August, Seth and I celebrated our 8th year of marriage. In total, we have been together for 13 years (we are high school sweethearts). It’s been a crazy ride, but one I wouldn’t trade for the world. We’ve literally grown up together and experienced every bit of our adult lives together. As wedding photographers we’ve traveled the world capturing hundreds of weddings together. We watch our couple’s enter into such a sacred time in their lives as they plan their wedding day. As the wedding day is truly the most special day, we know that marriage itself the easiest. It takes work every day! In celebration of our 8th year of marriage, I asked seth a few questions about our marriage and what advice he could give on how we continue to grow our relationship. Here’s what this sweet boy had to say.”
From Seth Payne: “Marriage has been great. It’s not always sunshine and roses, but it is great to have a teammate to go through life with. I love the memories that we have made together and the fact that there is always someone there to share the precious moments of life with. If I could give couple’s advice on having a successful marriage from what we’ve learned thus far, here’s what I would say...
The only way to work on a marriage is to keep it open and honest. A marriage has to be built on trust. Our relationship has never lacked trust. Whether it was my years in the Marine Corps stationed abroad or the years Heather has spent traveling the globe capturing beautiful imagery, it all has worked because we trust one another.
Communication is key. Don’t expect her to read your mind. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. Be gentle and thoughtful with your critiques, but be quick to express your love again.
3. SHOW YOUR LOVE
Don’t be afraid to show love and affection anywhere. Always treat your time together as a first date. Be over supportive even if it means finding new ways to support her.
For men, sometimes all the support she needs is for you to be there and listen. In those moments, keep your opinions to yourself and just listen.
Always make sure she feels beautiful and appreciated and that she’s the only one for you.
6. VOICE YOUR ISSUES
Don’t be afraid to butt heads, but don’t let any problem go unsolved. Put your heads together to work towards an outcome. If you can’t agree in the moment, hug it out and come back to the situation with a clear train of thought or different perspective.
7. UNITE IN YOUR CHALLENGES
Two is always better than one. You can always accomplish more together as a united team. Don’t let your spouse feel like they’re riding alone.
8. COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY
Keep your business your business. Don’t allow any outside influencing. No other couple has “exactly” what you have, so don’t compare yourself to others.
9. 100/100 RULE
My final piece of marriage is the 100/100 rule. You both have to five all of yourself at all times. It isn’t 50/50. It takes constant work to grow and evolve. A successful marriage comes only through hard work and constant dedication.